5 ways to emotional intelligence
Is your boss a very demanding and aggressive person? who doesn’t like to listen to your ideas or proposals? You feel trapped and like a robot under him? Although, he seems to be great at his work but your motivation to work under him is dying every day? Truth is, he might be lacking Emotional Intelligence…
A study explains people with high percentage of emotional intelligence can adjust with the environment perfectly and maintain healthier relationships with their co-workers’. And these employees are certified as high performers as well. Talking about comparing IQ with EQ there is a significant difference between the two. IQ is the one which is inborn in you and cannot be improvised or controlled. However, EQ is the ability to understand your own emotions and that of the others. Want to calculate your emotional intelligence and to know where do you stand?
Evaluate which of the below characteristics of a highly Emotionally Intelligent person do you possess;
- They pay attention to others. People having high level of EQ tend to hear and listen to people attentively.
- Observe body language and read minds. They are the people who can control their facial expressions intelligently and can work on non-verbal communication.
- They have Leadership qualities. People who have high EQ generally possess great management skills and are able to motivate their team members to work diligently without any worries or stress.
- They tend to manage difficult tasks or situations wisely. Whether the issue is quite complicated or easier to handle, a high EQ person do not budge and solve problems in a professional manner
How to improve your level of emotional intelligence if you were not able to identify the above characteristics in yourself? There are 5 possible and effective ways to develop your EQ;
Have Room for empathy:
Imagine yourself as a leader having people working under you. An employee under you accidently swappedan important document with those which were not needed. Will you be empathetic or lose your temper? As a leader you must have room for empathy for mistakes, however, have guidance ready for them which will allow them never to make those mistakes again. In this case, it might have happened because he was less organized with his paper work; you can help him understand what went wrong and inform him of the improved way of doing his job. He will not only be thankful, his respect for you and loyalty towards you will increase.. After all, is it not the job of leaders to show the way…
Train yourself to be self-reflected
Observe your behavior and understand how you talk, or listen how your colleagues are talking. All this may give you insights on yourself, your reactions to circumstances and your emotional responses. Truthfully, we all have them and time and again we require assistance from guided councilors to help us in this area, however, we should start with ourselves first. Self-reflection is a form of personal development or analysis to bring ourselves to a place of alignment, where our emotions are balanced.
Have knowledge of your moods
If you tend to get stressed out or depressed about everything from minor to major, you won’t be able to maintain good relationships with others. If you know something will definitely affect you emotionally; like messages from your boss late at night or emails of the clients, just put them a side for a while till the next morning when you are emotionally balanced to respond to them intelligently.
Handle with your mind not your emotions
Disputes and conflicts are a major part of the work environment and to handle all that may become quite tough at times. Impulsive behaviors tend to be harmful in making decisions and anger would never be an answer to your problem. In order to deal with such situations in an intelligent manner, it is advised to delay the process of taking decision or any action till your anger has abated and your thoughts are cleared again.
Be positive
Being positive and motivated will not only make you relaxed but will also help the people under you in staying motivated and achieving goals.. Emotionally intelligent people are self-motivated, have a calm exterior and they usually spread a positive vibe around them by engaging in gatherings, lunch breaks and having friendly disposition.
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